I Wish Her Well

Returning from that last post.

I left you guys with an important piece.

"This isn't advice on how to manage co-parenting, that is whole other obstacle within itself and definitely for another day."

Coming into this new life of having a child, there's a lot of emotions that come with you becoming a parent. When you go so long with one person, you don't ever think that you'll be going through life in completely different paths. 

Yes, you do have a different perspective on life as a parent — it's something you grow into together. But if you're not on the same page, let alone the same book.

This shit gets complicated

Eventually, after so many years of that.. you end up where I'm at. 

You've gone through the emotions, the apps, the adjusting, all of it. Now you're here..

Somewhere you thought you'd never be at, but you have to accept it and do your best as a father to provide and move forward in life. 

As easy as it is to sit here and complain and mope and be depressed, or be spiteful and hate my ex-wife. Within everything in me, I can't. It's not because I haven't tried. It's because all that animosity doesn't do anyone good, and like I previously mentioned in that same post "I love my daughter, more than I love her mother. 

What does that mean? It means, that I am willing to do everything I can to show my daughter that my love for her comes before anything else.

This isn't to say that I don't have love for her mother, in all honesty I do. How am I supposed to hate the person who I was with my entire adult life or don't even go that far. Who gave me my daughter. 

I say all that to tell you this. Your love for your children should outshine your feelings towards their parent. Once you have this foundation set, co-parenting becomes easier.

Understandably, there will be nuances and minor shit you have to deal with and eventually adjust to, and of course she absolutely pisses me off but to let my emotions speak for me is something she doesn't deserve anymore. My job now is to do best by my daughter because despite how I may feel, she needs the relationship with her mom and I am nobody to push against that. 

I wish her well.